When I Say No, I Feel Guilty
The best-seller that helps you say: “I just said ‘no’ and I don’t feel guilty!” Are you letting your kids get away with murder? Are you allowing your mother-in-law to impose her will on you? Are you embarrassed by praise or crushed by criticism? Are you having trouble coping with people? Learn the answers in When I Say No, I Feel Guilty, the best-seller with revolutionary new techniques for getting your own way.
User Ratings and Reviews
4 Stars When I say no….
Although I have been trying to be more assertive over the past couple of years it was not until I read this book that I knew what things I did made me come off as a push-over and what made me strong. Now I am able to transition into a more equal role with those around me when the situation changes.
Its a great read
5 Stars a lifesaver
I bought this book ages ago, and had it sitting on the shelf for the longest time. Finally I cracked it open because I am suddenly bombarded with family related manipulation, that I now realise has been going on for a very long time. So, it has really calmed me down, as I was beginning to consider yet another argument of the countless that I have initiated over the years and they work marginally, but to a great cost…myself and my own energy. With the help of this book, I see now that it really is a matter of persistence with some of the most manipulative and controlling people in our lives, and have already begun using BROKEN RECORD repeatedly with success. I haven’t lashed out yet, and got my message across…only time will tell if it sticks. I’m beginning to think that maybe some relationships are so damaged it’s not worth trying to keep them…family relationships that is. If they refuse to get the message, there’s nothing anyone can do and if they continue to overstep the mark, just forget about them all together. I wonder, how long one has to keep persisting before finally deciding to throw in the towel? I suspect though that with the help of this book, I’ll finally be able to see the wood for the trees and, instead of the usual reactive actions, I’ll keep my cool, feel stronger to move in that direction if that is what is required for myself. I guess I’ll find out soon enough. Overall, this book is extremely helpful especially when you are so used to knee-jerk reactions like I am, because it offers alternative methods which can be very useful in difficult situations.
5 Stars Assertiveness without Being Obnoxious
My favorite book on how to be assertive without being obnoxious. I’ve given copies to may of my friends who can’t say “no” when they really want to. Many very useful techniques for dealing with all kinds of people and situations.
4 Stars A useful, practical guide.
I have found this book to be as relevant today as when it was published. There are a wide range of examples in the book showing how the skills taught can be used. This examples are excellent starting points to practise the skills yourself with others and then step on to applying them in your everyday life.
5 Stars Great book - Changed my lief
This is the first review I have ever put on Amazon; that’s how much I like this book. The first half is full of skills and techniques that, for the unassertive and “nice” person like myself, really opens your eyes. The second half of the book contains different example assertive conversations into different social and professional settings, and while they do help, the first half is really the guts of the book. It doesn’t seem to have too many different techniques, but what it has are techniques that work, and they work very quickly, as long as you continue to study them and keep them fresh in your mind, and then of course practice them. The author tells it straight, and really opened my eyes. I bought three of these assertiveness books at one time, and this was the best of the three.
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